As I sat here, I wondered, "Why am I so sensitive to other people's feelings?" I started thinking about all the times I've kept my mouth shut to avoid confrontation. I thought over things I had done and the lengths I had gone through to make others happy. I remembered moments in my life when the approval of my parents, husband, children, classmates, teachers, employers, and co-workers mattered more to me than my own value. I realized I cared about what others thought more than what I thought. I cared about what other people wanted instead of what I wanted. And, I felt guilty about having wants and desires of my own.
My worry about other people's feelings and needs stemmed from fear, guilt, and a twisted sense of pride. I felt responsible for other's needs and feelings. One day as I was reading Galatians 1:10; "For do I now persuade men, or God? Or do I seek to please men? For if I still pleased men, I would not be a bondservant of Christ." A light bulb came on in my heart and mind.... and I realized my overwhelming concerns for people's wants, needs and feelings was and at times a form of people pleasing. I had lost sight of what God wanted for me and my life. I had forgotten I was loved by God....He is the one that made me worthy of love. I am called to live for God not for other people. If you are struggling with caring too much about what other people think and their needs; I encourage you to read and and take a few minutes to meditate on Psalm 139:1-6; Romans 8:37 and Romans 12: 1-2.
You are special. God created you as a unique individual, who is allowed to have feelings and wants and needs of your own. God knows each one of us by name. God knows you and you ARE enough. God loves you and you do not have to prove to the world that you are worthy of love. You are allowed to take the time to sit in The Father's presence and ask Him to show you His truth. Hebrews 4:9-11.
In closing... "Don"t worry about other people's opinions of you. God never told you to impress people; only to love them."